Sources of Influence

Recently I was helping a UK business develop their national field team of Area Managers. I was working one-to-one developing personal goals, ‘resistor-busting’ strategies and their personal plans to discover new knowledge through reading. We discussed useful reference...

Troubled Families and Continue & Begin®

Continue & Begin Fast Coaching® is content free; that is, the model is a framework through which we can address a diverse range of people development issues. Here’s an example of Continue & Begin Fast Coaching® in use in the context of a ‘troubled family’, a...

“You did well, but…” (The But Monster™)

The But Monster™ is a conjunction; that is, a word joining two sentences together. In personal communication it can also act as a destructive rapport breaker. In therapeutic contexts the word ‘But’ is acknowledged as potentially damaging to a counsellor-client or...

Criticism and Change

When we focus on what’s wrong in our lives we shut out positivity and opportunity. Transfer this reality to the world of coaching others and we create stunted thinking and limited possibilities. Recent research analysing brain imaging patterns highlights how important...

Patterns Which Connect

Some of you will know my admiration for Gregory Bateson (1904-1980). I discovered Bateson’s work in the early 90s when I first read Structure of Magic Vol 1. ‘Magic’ was Bandler & Grinder’s first text about what was then called ‘META’, later evolving into what...

“I Know You Don’t Know…”

  A pattern which connects Can’t to Can™ and Continue & Begin® Core Questions is the tendency of coachees to respond to initial questions with a classic linguistic forward defensive of “I don’t know”. This manifests itself in communication like this:...

“How Many Times Do I Have to Tell You?”

This is a phrase many people have heard (or used) in an effort to encourage a coachee to perform in a given manner; to follow a process or communicate in a certain way. The challenge with ‘Tell’ is that it’s a didactic, instructional method of development and...